Communication is the Key!

 

Communication is the key to a happy and successful relationship. Couples MUST be able to talk about their relationship issues and opinions in order to form a long lasting, happy relationship.

I talk to so many couples with the same common problem, they can't communicate.  Most were never able to sit down and  "honestly" discuss their feelings or thoughts. The fear that their partner would not understand or would ridicule them for something shared and not understood. Strange enough these are couples that have been together for many years, but deep down they are strangers.

Do you want to be truly happy in your relationship???  The key is talk, talk, talk....sounds simple enough, but is it?

Well the answer is, no, it's not easy, but you can do it. With all relationships, you must have two willing people to begin and that alone will take a little communication. Sit down and have a "balls out discussion".

The first step in achieving better communication that will really work, is to take a look at yourself first. People always tend to turn to their partner first when things are not running so smoothly in their relationship. They automatically begin pointing out what their partners faults, as well as how their partner is not listening to them. This may all be true depending on your particular situation, but it is important that you take the responsibility in reviewing your own actions and communication first, before you can point anything out in your partner. Remember, it is very easy to see other people's mistakes, but when it comes to looking at yourself, it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself- because no one wants to be wrong.

Communication is not about who is right or wrong, but instead about helping each other see things from each other's perspective, so that you can be on the page and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments.

Don't forget about "Sex" or intimacy. So many couples have been together for years and years and still find it hard to really communicate about their sexual needs or desires. This is the glue in a relationship, it is a must in any healthy, happy relationship. If you can't be intimate, you will find it is equally difficult to have deep, intimate communication.

Maybe instead of communicating about your issues, maybe begin with your thoughts, dreams, future plans. You may be surprised to find that you both still agree on a great many things. Find those common elements and build on them together.

Best of Luck!

 

Author Bio:    Phill Davis is a Lifecoach/Counsellor, CLC, Adviser and has over 15 years coaching/counseling adult couples and individuals with marriage issues such as infidelity,commication problems, mental abuse and love/sex life issues.