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Complement her, be romantic, listen to her, more complements, whisper in her ear. This is all great, well and good and needed to keep our relationships strong. But, what about the men? Many times, as men age and relationships progress, men need a few complements themselves. Perhaps it’s our own fault. We try so hard to be tough, manly and in control. We don’t want to appear soft or in need of such complements. But, more often than not, we need to have our ego’s stroked through complements. Especially as we age, we want to think we still look young, we’re still attractive, we want to think "WE STILL GOT IT"!
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EXTRA TIP
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Ladies your not the only one who likes compliments. When a woman compliments a man he is like putty in your hands. He will eat it up. If you want to get your man to do something try flattery. He will be more than willing to help out when his ego is stroked.
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I’m not suggesting every guy wants to be bombarded by sweet nothings, but every once in a while, and with the right timing, complements can do us wonders. Here are a few things a woman can say that will really do the trick:
"You’re a super guy!" Guy’s love to hear this from there partner. We want to be respected and feel like you think we’re above average. Complement him on how well he deals with other people. Tell him he has a good heart.
"You’re looking buff." Ask him if he has been working out without you? Tell him how big his arms look. We all like to put on our favorite jeans and hear you say " wow, those look good on you!" Hey, even if he has packed on a few from the last Thanksgiving dinner, it will spark a little fire in his head.
"What do you think? So many men, after several years in a relationship, begin to think his opinion doesn’t matter when it comes to what clothes you wear, where the sofa should be moved ..etc.. I’m not suggesting he should have the last say in every decision, but at least a little.
"You’re a good dad." Most men feel they are defined by the way they appear to there children. We are, many times, the authority figure in the home and feel as though our children may not like us. We need to hear we’re doing a good job as a father.
"Take me now!" Did you know that 72 percent of men polled, said there partners aren’t adventurous enough. Most also said there partner rarely initiates sex. Let’s face it, we all like it, so go for it! I can assure you, unless you have a major disconnect in your relationship or a health related problem, your guy will welcome your advances!
"Laugh at him." Well, you know what I mean. Laugh at his jokes, at his humor. Tell him you like to hear his laugh. I know this sounds a little silly, but it’s great for his ego. But, be very careful not to bruise his ego by laughing "at" him.
"Your so big!" I think you know what I’m referring to here. Even if he isn’t as blessed as he may think, tell him anyway! This may seem a bit juvenile but, this is the number one, must do! Your guy will love to hear you say it, his ego needs to hear it! Heck, lie if you need too, or replace big with thick. Either will be great! Remember, the "timing" is everything!
"You so hot!" Reassure him that you still think he’s hot! He may not have those washtub abs, or monster arms he once had (or never had). But, just like you, he wants to hear you tell him he’s hot! He may laugh and say "sure I am", but he will appreciate it just the same.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain!
Author: Phil Davis is a life, dating and relationship counselor and publisher.
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